Wednesday, August 31, 2005

Parenting 101

Man, you try so hard to learn from your mistakes with the previous child so you will do a better job each time. Why can't I learn to not push Andy so hard and make him feel like he never quite lives up to my expectations! I don't really feel that way but I know that's how I come across. Just carrying on the fine tradition my mom started with me and that I do to myself as well. He is struggling with not wanting to be in orchestra anymore and just wanting to get through the year, and I just need to let it go and be okay with that, and encourage him in other classes and sports, etc. I have been accused by both him and Lindsay of trying to make them do what I would do and be like me, and that is painfully close to true, much as I hate to admit it. It's certainly not my intent, but that seems to be the result anyway. I want him to know I love him and am proud of everything he does and that I'm okay with whatever he chooses to focus on. Why is that so hard to just say? You'd think this would get easier after all these years, but not so much . . .

3 comments:

Darrell said...

Hey, thanks for the comment. And yes I was aware that it was Jay wearing the shorts and t-shirt. I just didn't want to call him out or anything. I will definitely look forward to going out to eat or stopping by next week sometime. Talk to you soon Gail.

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hampton said...

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hampton said...

my super fun night that i didn't really elaborate on, pete and bekah picked me up in the city along with pete's friend steve from australia. accents = swoon! anyway, we went to see our friends' band play in a battle of the bands. it was the final round, they've been competing since i visited in february. so we saw a few bands, had a few drinks (or steve and i did at least) and then came back into the city for dinner and some late night shopping on st. marks place. the actual activities were not that unusual, just the company. pete is just hilarious, i love him, and steve was a really really cool guy. if he didn't live in stinkin australia i think i would have pounced on him. but when pete and bek tie the knot in vegas he is coming down to be one of pete's groomsmen. bekah said she'd pair me up with him ;) it was just good to laugh and have fun and hang out with friends, new and old. one of those nights where you just kind of forget the uneasiness and awareness of being in the midst of a "life adventure", starting a new life in a new place, etc. you're just home and it's amazing. :)