Thursday, November 03, 2005

At a loss for words . . .

One of Andy's friends on the Martin Cross Country team was hit by a car yesterday while riding his bike, and today he died after being taken off life support. I did not know him, but he was the same age as Andy and he says that he and Kevin and Taylor were good pals on the team. I am totally at a loss of what to say to my son. He seems sad but mostly just says it doesn't seem real yet. I have never, at least so far in life, lost a friend, only parents and grandparents, so I have no experience to call on to comfort him. I don't know if the boy was a believer in Jesus or not, but I hope so. Andy made a t-shirt that said "Kevin Wood Is My Hero." I asked him about it and he just said it was the kind of thing Kevin would have liked. I just told him that whatever he felt like doing to honor his friend was appropriate. He is taking an extra shirt to school, and if there is a memorial of some sort set up at school, he will leave the shirt that he made there. I think we will drive by the spot where it happened (Bowen and Green Oaks) to see if something is set up there as well. I want to say something, do something, to help him feel better, but he doesn't seem to want to talk about it much. Maybe in the days to come he will. It makes me so sad that he has to deal with something like this at 14 - you shouldn't have to be mourning your friends at 14.

All I can seem to think about is the parents - how devastated we would be if it had been Andy. It's hard to even get my mind around that thought. It just brings home the fact that you never know when today is your last day on earth, and so you better live like it was. Hug those you love just one more time, tell them you love them, do something nice for someone, let the housework and laundry go and do something fun with your kids . . . those all seem like cliches, but think about it - what's gonna matter at the end . . . whenever it comes. Tomorrow will be a very hard day for the freshmen at Martin (and the others as well). Pray for them, and for Kevin's family, especially his parents. There are no words . . .

2 comments:

Angela said...

Gail,
I read your GMA blog first and was going to comment on how much I LOVE GMA as well. I loved Joan Lunden and Spencer Christian, but Charlie and Diane are great. But then I read about Andy's friend and that just doesn't seem as important. I am so sorry to hear that. We will keep Andy and the family in our prayers!

Angela

hampton said...

my mom took a handful of pictures where theorhetically you'd be able to see the dress, but she's not the most adept with the digital camera, so they didn't really come out. if i saved any of them where you can actually see it i'll email one to you. but rest assured, it looked fantastic. :)

i hope andy's doing ok. he probably talks about it w/ his friends at school a little bit more than he does w/ you guys at home since the kids at school knew kevin and can relate to how he's feeling. poor kid, i've never lost a friend either, i can't imagine how weird that must be, especially being so young. but you are a good mom, and i'm sure andy knows that if/when he's ready to say more about all of it that you're ready to listen.